Choosing your spouse is one of the most important decisions you’ll ever make. Drawing from Psalm 1 and Psalm 112, Jeff outlines the character traits of a faithful, steadfast husband—one rooted in Scripture, generous in heart, and strong in adversity.

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What to Look for in a Godly Man (Psalm 112)

1. He Fears the Lord (Psalm 112:1)

• Not fear as terror — but reverent awe and submission to God.
• His decisions, priorities, and leadership are under God’s authority.
• He delights in God’s commands.

A man who meditates on God’s Word will act according to God’s Word.

2. He Is Rooted in Scripture (Psalm 1:1–2)

• Does not walk in the counsel of the wicked.
• Delights in the law of the Lord.
• Meditates on Scripture day and night.
• Equipped to handle real-life challenges biblically.

3. He Is a Family Man (Psalm 112:2)

• Desires legacy, not just lifestyle.
• Open to life and committed to building a godly household.
• Works hard to provide shelter, protection, prayer, and leadership.

Looks and humor won’t sustain a marriage — character will.

4. He Is Spiritually Wealthy (Psalm 112:3)

• Wealth here means wisdom, virtue, sacramental life, prayer.
• Rich in mercy, kindness, and righteousness.
• Financial wealth is secondary; spiritual wealth is essential.

5. He Brings Light into Darkness (Psalm 112:4)

• Marriage will have difficult seasons.
• A godly man responds with faith, not blame or despair.
• He prays and leads courageously during hardship.

6. He Is Generous and Just (Psalm 112:5)

• Deals generously.
• Conducts his affairs with justice.
• Not manipulative, selfish, or dishonest.
• Gives others what is rightfully due.

7. He Is Steadfast and Courageous (Psalm 112:6–8)

• Not swayed by public opinion or politics.
• Firm heart, secure in God.
• Faithful — not just belief, but lived trust.
• Handles adversity with courage.

Faith is not merely intellectual agreement — it is personal trust and surrender.

8. He Has a Heart for the Poor (Psalm 112:9)

• Generous toward those in need.
• Lives out the Church’s preferential option for the poor.
• Sees Christ in the vulnerable.

9. He Is Distinguished from the Wicked (Psalm 112:10)

• The wicked respond with envy and anger.
• The righteous endure with honor.
• Choose character over charisma.

Practical Takeaway: “Be Picky”

Jeff shares his tradition of giving young people a guitar pick as a reminder:

Be picky about who you marry. Not picky about perfection — but intentional about godly character.